DISQUS

thatShortChick · 3 months ago

well, usually when I become a crabby patty of sorts, I blast my iPod with songs that make me just wanna get up and dance. because if I'm up and dancing around, I realize that things really aren't that bad.

and it always helps to dance it out.

Ashley @ {Let Go, Laughing} · 3 months ago

um i so do the same thing and i am just waiting for my husband to point it out to me... always find something irritating with my job that is.

sometimes i wonder if it is just me but its good to know i'm not alone.

let's see, when i get in a grump mode i watch some shows i have saved, i make something creative, or, honestly sometimes i just make my husband listen to me vent and then i feel better having gotten it all out.

can't wait to read your happy things! :)

Mandy · 3 months ago

I usually just grab the dog, get in the car and go for a drive into the country. It helps me clear my head. Watching the sunset reminds me that there are are greater things out there.

crstn85 · 3 months ago

I can definitely relate. Last night I was seriously overwhelmed. I started by coming home and turning on some calm music (I have a couple cello soloists I love, the cello is just so mellow). Then I baked cookies, because I needed to bring something to school today, but also because then my apartment smelled like deliciousness and I had warm cookies to cram in my mouth when I started feeling upset. Finally, I sat down to get my work done and didn't allow any distractions, (just my cello music, no computer or tv) and plowed through everything I needed to do. Today I feel so very much better because last night I was calm and productive.

alyssa · 3 months ago

Yeah I definitely can become grumpy very easily at work! It's hard to deal with people/things around you when you are trying to be positive and they may not be. THEN THEY GO AND RUIN IT!! :p So I don't know, usually I just tell myself the positive things about work: I'm a good worker, they love me, I have a job, etc, etc, etc.

Lindsay · 3 months ago

Music and going for a walk. I have way too high standards and am a perfectionist so what gets me down at work is stuff that other people just let roll off their backs. I soooo want to be one of those people.

Steph · 3 months ago

Oh Ashley I really struggle with being happy with my job. I've found it really depends on who I'm working with at the time.. but I know when I'm working late, Cale sometimes knocks it right out of the ballpark and does little things that make me feel so great, like cleaning up extra around the house, etc. It's weird because I've actually gotten used to the long hours (maybe in a sad way). For example, if I'm home before 7pm, I feel so refreshed and like I have such a long evening ahead of me.

I don't think there will ever be a time where I LOVE my job. And this is a job where I know it's a good fit for me. So I'm not sure if I'd be any happier elsewhere either. I think the grass is always greener. I'd love to be able to stay home, but then I'm sure that would get old as well.

Allison M. · 3 months ago

when i'm in a grump mode, i will stay away from the BF. I always take my frustrations out on him.

Melissa · 3 months ago

I'm doing the same thing as you- coming up with a mantra to make the day a bit better that I can repeat to myself. I also try to make my car time a time to look forward to- by playing only my favorite relaxing (or loud, dancy) music and having my latte. It turns my frustratingly long commute into a decompress time instead of something to dread.

Kyla Roma · 3 months ago

I've been feeling really negative lately too, which is why my monday post 'simple happy' was written- to remind me that there are wonderful, cheap, sweet things that I can do all the time that make me happy.

Taryn · 3 months ago

Wen I am being a crab or getting all stressed= I just try to step back and see it in perspective. Usually if I can do this, it helps me to be in a better mood and have a better attitude.

kitkat · 3 months ago

I just try to stay away from people if at all possible. I acknowledge that it's okay for me to be upset about whatever it is (and you should too--there will always be things about your work that you won't like), and try to let that feeling just pass. It usually does. If the feeling doesn't pass, then some kind of action needs to take place in order to solve or avoid the problems that make me upset. Sometimes talking about it or writing down actually makes it worse because you're drawing more energy to the thing, and making the people around you upset too. So, I try to just be alone, have a cup of tea, and go about my daily business as usual.

kitkat · 3 months ago

P.S. Although I've been bad about keeping this up, every week I attempt a Thankful Thursday post in which I talk about something I'm thankful for (today I actually did post one). I applaud you for doing your 5 happy things each day. You are probably a much more positive person than you give yourself credit for.

Lani @ sanslimites · 3 months ago

Heyy Girl! I've been swamped but your blog is the only one that got my hamster interested enough to leave a comment. :) I love that you are good busy & I love that Mike challenges you. That is one of the things I love about my beau (tony). Anyways, here are 5 things I do to get rid of grump face.

1) WORKOUT - run. Run like it's my job.
2) COOK - all your senses get stimulated while you cook. Do something new...at the end of it you feel so accomplished.
3) PAMPER - massage or mani/padi.
4) VENT SESSION - whether it's mike, a sister, or a friend just unleash it all - unedited.
5) SLEEP - grumpy face usually means i'm either hungry or sleepy...it's usually sleep so i try to catch up on my zzz's.

Amy --- Just A Titch · 3 months ago

Okay, I'm so glad it's not just me. We work in similar fields, and honestly? After being on "output" mode allll dayyyy longggg, it's really hard to feel happy & positive. I feel ya sister. I don't know if you have an iPhone, but I just downloaded a Gratitude app for .99 to force me to find good things everyday (or at least remind me!). Keeping a journal will help. As for when I'm stressed, I try writing, a bath, wine, girl time, dinner out with my boyfriend, etc. And, as awful, selfish, and contradictory as it may be to being a "hard worker" I recognize when I'm going to LOSE IT, and take a day off, refuse to work late, and don't do ANYTHING on a weekend. The thing is that really, the world won't end if you don't get something done, or you don't work late. I know it's hard when you want to make a good impression at a new place, but I promise you are LESS effective if you don't take any "you time." Swearsies. So take it, guilt free.

I'm here ANY TIME you want to talk about this, because I soooo get it. xo

Andrea · 3 months ago

Sometimes I have to give myself little pep talks about work, and they're usually pretty effective, even if I have to do it several times a week. I feel your pain.

kay · 3 months ago

I try to assume everyone has good intent. the result might not be good...but the intent may have been good. now I say this...and it is reeeeaaallly hard. but I try...bc I would much rather give everyone the 'oh no you didn't' look and stomp off.

Bayjb · 3 months ago

I love that the happy list is back! Such a great idea. Usually when I'm crabby, I will take a walk or go to the gym just for a breather.

sarah marie p · 3 months ago

Sorry you've been oozing negativity. I'm the best at complaining/being super negative about ye old job. Ha. Ahhh now I'm all paranoid that someone will find this comment on your blog! OMG. That girl Sarah complains about work! FOR SHAME! Fire her ASAP! I swear it wasn't me, guys!

haha, this comment is weird and rambling. I should write in code. Pig latin or something way more secretive.

Ummmmm if you find a way to have an awesome attitude, please let me know. :P

Ok, enough secret complaining (or not so secret?) ... what do I do when I'm being a grumpface?

Well, last night I went to bed at 10:30 p.m. and it was pretty dang sweet. I was having the worst attitude and being way too sensitive and moody and blah blah ... so I went to bed because I was super tired from always going to bed at 1 a.m. and such (or later) ... and being tired after a long day doesn't help! Oops, it's 12:41 now, I should probably get to bed. Good thing tomorrow is Friday!

OH, I want to copy Ashley @let go, laughing's answer ... I also like to just vent and vent and vent to john until I get it all out.

Otherwise some awesome TV or a magazine or book or random living room dance party can help too!

Have fun hanging out! Four friends in one week! You are a social butterfly. For realz yo! I'm such a homebody sometimes, I should get out more. hah

Ashley · 3 months ago

Dude.
I've been a hardcore Negative Nancy this week. But not even in a proactive way in an OMG-I'm-sad-and-i-don't-know-why kinda way.

Totally bites.

I'm probably going to write a "Happy" post today.

Sigh.

Doniree · 3 months ago

Depends on the kind of grumpy mood, but sometimes I have to actually talk myself through it. Sometimes I run. Mostly? DANCE. Awkwardly and inappropriately.

Lauren From Texas · 3 months ago

"It’s so hard to be challenged by your husband. I JUST WANT YOU TO AGREE WITH ME, MIKE."

I know how you feel, but isn't it great to have a man who wants you to be a BETTER person, because he loves you to much to let you wallow? I love that about my husband. Well, at the time, I hate it, but in hindsight, love it. ;)

Love the idea of the happy list!!

EP · 3 months ago

I totally feel you on this. My job brings a lot of negativity out of me, and I am always trying to improve my attitude, simply to be happier about myself.

Sending you positive thoughts, lady!

your wishcake. · 3 months ago

Love that you're getting swept up in the happiness revolution, too. First off, you and I could be twins. Everything you wrote about Negative Nancy and such (or, as I am called by my husband: Bitter Betty) was SPOT ON to how I've been feeling lately.

I recently wrote a post about my own happiness project, and I'm happy to report that I've been doing well. Very well. More than anything, I've been taking charge of my emotions (not exactly easy for a passionate, emotional female, if you ask me) and that has been my first step.

I adore your idea of the "happy list" - I've seen things like that around the internet before and it has really challenged me to seek out the good things in each day.

And there are always many.

Best of luck, my dear! I'm sure I say this often, but if only your duplex was connected to MY duplex, the world would be a better place. :)

KTMcCarthy19 · 3 months ago

When I'm grumpy I try to smile even if it's the last thing that I want to do...it seems like whenever I smile it brightens up someone's day and in turn my day too. Sometimes I also think about HILARIOUS things children do...like Tommy at the Y who drew up the most ridiculous looking "harry potter glasses" on his face while hiding in the bathroom...you can't tell me that wouldn't brighten your day!! lol :)

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